The Nature of Gender and Ideals
I’ve been reading a lot of posts (well, two anyway, which was enough to get me thinking) about women and the “ideal” role they should play. First the question of “equality”; are men and women equal? Yes. We are all individuals, and we need to be treated as such, that makes us equal. However; are there basic physical, emotional, and mental differences between men and women? Yes. Just because we are equal doesn’t make us the same, it doesn’t even mean that we should be treated the same, it just means that we should be respected as individuals.
I think that instead of worrying so much about what makes a good man or a good woman, we should worry more about being good people. I think that instead of trying to figure out how people are “supposed” to fit into the world we should figure out how better to understand and respect each other’s needs. I think it’s dangerous to set up standards and “ideals” to measure people by. People are very different, by their very natures, and they’ve been through very different things, whether we wish to acknowledge it or not, those things transform who we are. I think we should all work harder at being true to who we are, regardless of what that means or how other people will judge us for it.
Normal does not exist. No one can tell us who we are supposed to be based on something as insignificant as gender. In truth it’s the differences that matter. Without different people we would die out as a species, because we would be unable to adapt to changing circumstances. The highest honor that can be achieved in this life isn’t earning the label of lady or gentleman, master or Ph.D., CEO or bestselling author. It’s learning to fit into your own skin and being able to say you know you are. It’s staying true to your values and beliefs. It’s refusing to compromise on your own code of honor.
Be yourself, find other people that can accept you for all that you are, and that you can accept in turn. The rest doesn’t matter.